What is the difference between an open marriage and polyamory?

Monogamy

Monogamy, the most common relationship style, involves emotional and sexual exclusivity between two individuals. It is rooted in the belief that a committed partnership should be built on trust, loyalty, and the absence of any romantic or sexual involvement outside of the relationship. Monogamous relationships have provided stability, emotional intimacy, and a sense of security for many people. 

Monogamish 

This unique approach to love and intimacy allows couples to stay together while also exploring physical connections with others outside the relationship. Unlike traditional open relationships, monogamish couples set boundaries that typically involve allowing kissing or touching with others, while maintaining emotional and romantic exclusivity. This arrangement requires open communication, trust, and a deep understanding of each other’s needs and boundaries. 

Polyfidelity 

Polyfidelity involves a committed and intimate relationship between more than two individuals, all of whom are sexually exclusive to one another. Unlike open relationships or polyamory, which often involve multiple sexual partners, polyfidelity emphasizes the importance of sexual exclusivity within the group. This creates a sense of security and trust, as all members agree to only engage in sexual activities with one another. Polyfidelity can be an alternative option for those who desire a committed relationship, but also want to explore the possibility of multiple partners. It challenges the notion that love and intimacy can only exist between two people, offering a more inclusive and fluid understanding of relationships.

Hierarchical Polyamory

Hierarchical polyamory is a relationship style that incorporates varying degrees of emotional and sexual exclusivity with different partners. In this dynamic, individuals may prioritize certain relationships over others, establishing a hierarchy based on factors such as time, commitment, or living arrangements. This approach allows for a certain level of structure and stability within the polyamorous dynamic, providing individuals with a clear understanding of their roles and expectations.

Non-Hierarchical Polyamory

On the other end of the spectrum lies non-hierarchical polyamory, which embraces a more fluid and egalitarian approach to relationships. In this style, there are no predefined structures or limitations on emotional or sexual commitment. Partnerships are allowed to evolve naturally, without constraints or expectations. This approach fosters a sense of freedom and autonomy, enabling individuals to explore their desires and connections without the fear of favoritism or neglect.

Swinging

Swinging refers to couples who engage in sexual activities with other couples, often with the understanding that emotional commitment and relationships outside of the swap are off-limits. This a consensual and mutually agreed-upon arrangement between adults. One of the key aspects of swinging is the concept of low sexual exclusivity and high emotional exclusivity. Unlike traditional monogamous relationships, swinging couples often engage in sexual encounters with other couples together or by trading partners. This practice allows couples to explore their fantasies of being with another person while still in a committed relationship.

Solo polyamory

This relationship style allows individuals to engage in multiple emotional and sexual connections without the need for commitment to one specific partner. This approach to relationships allows individuals to explore their desires to build meaningful connections while maintaining their autonomy. Unlike traditional monogamy or even other forms of polyamory, solo polyamory emphasizes the freedom to engage in relationships without the constraints of exclusivity,  hierarchy, or the expectation of long-term commitment. It challenges the notion that commitment to one partner is the only path to fulfillment and happiness. Solo polyamory individuals may navigate their relationships based on their own needs, desires, and personal growth.

Asexuality

Asexual individuals may experience little to no sexual attraction, or may have low sexual attraction at times, Asexual individuals redefine intimacy by prioritizing emotional connection, communication, and shared experiences. In a culture that often equates sexual attraction with romantic relationships, it can be challenging for individuals who identify as asexual to navigate their desires and form meaningful connections because this relationship style challenges the assumption that sex is a necessary component of intimacy. Asexual people can find fulfillment in deep emotional bonds and the support of one or multiple partners, rather than relying on sexual intimacy as the sole source of connection.

Poly-Intimates

Poly-intimates, a term coined to describe those who engage in consensual non-monogamy at varying degrees of sexual, romantic, or emotional and commitment levels. This lifestyle allows individuals to explore emotional connections with a focus on intimacy, rather than sex. Intimacy can look different for everyone, and poly-intimacy can be a spectrum from very close friendship to a sexual relationship. Some philosophies about poly-intimacy espouse the ability to focus on an agape sense of love, while attempting to not value one relationship over another.  By engaging in multiple, consensual relationships, those who engage in poly-intimacy can create a supportive network of partners who understand and respect their unique needs and desires.

Relationship Anarchy

On the other end of the spectrum from monogamy is relationship anarchy, a philosophy that challenges traditional relationship norms. Relationship anarchists prioritize autonomy, freedom, and individualism over societal expectations and rules. In this style, there are no predefined relationship structures or hierarchies. Individuals are encouraged to form connections based on their own desires and needs, allowing for emotional and sexual fluidity. Relationship anarchists believe in the importance of consent, communication, and mutual respect, fostering a sense of personal growth and exploration within their relationships.

Infinite Possibilities

Deciding what relationship style works for you can take time. Sometimes trial and error are the best way to learn your wants, needs, boundaries, and expectations. Communication, trust, and jealousy management become even more crucial in these complex dynamics. It requires a high level of emotional maturity, open-mindedness, and mutual respect among all partners involved. As popular culture becomes increasingly aware of the various ways in which people can relate to one another, more individuals are becoming conscious of different ways to love and form commitments with each other.